I think my daughters apartment is going to be a pig-sty when she grows up and lives on her own.  Even though she keeps her room neat and organized it only happens with official instructions to clean and a healthy dose of whining.  If she manages not to complain then her face says is all complete with sighing and eye-rolling, that she swears she isn't doing.  How do I teach her that cleaning is an unavoidable part of life and change her perception of it as a chore?  Maybe that is not possible.  She is only eleven.  She does love the end result and is happy when her space is clutter-free, so perhaps I will have to focus on that angle.  But I am honestly fed-up with "attitude" and am quick to remind her of all my chores.  I am sure I have turned into my mother when I say things like, "I'd be glad to trade you my chores for yours".  When she was little we used to play a game called Cinderella to inspire her to help.  It was a simple concept, we clean all day and then go to a fancy (movie, dinner, bowling) that night.  Like the movie, without the singing birds.  Though we did sing during our chores...