Calm and consist behavior can reflect as confidence in the eye of your teen.  It sounds like an odd combination, but if you consider the limited amount of calm a teen interacts with during the day these traits allow you to stand out as a knowledgeable adult. 

If you consider a teen’s life is rarely calm, and the only thing consistent is that there is no consistency; confidence is a difficult trait to emulate. 

Most teens will thrive in a culture of calm.  It isn’t a trait they are often able to initiate, yet offered in an environment it may become a something they yearn as their need to feel safe. 

Consistency in parental behavior has shown to bring positive change in teen’s lives regardless of the subject matter.  It is important for a teen to know their family’s expectations as well as the outcome of meeting, or not meeting, these expectations.  Teens often operate under the belief that it is easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.  By putting forth a consistent stream of communication, it offers options for the teen to choose. 

Most teens are emotional and high-strung, potentially without cause, which makes the parent’s calm behavior a welcomed challenge to the teen.  After a day of interacting with others in their own age group, the calm exterior of the parent offers security.  Although it is human nature to mirror others, when a parent reflects the outbursts and anger of their teen they are only multiply the problematic personality. 

A parent’s continual challenge is to admit a calmness which allows the teen to believe their parent does understand and that their problem, no matter how large today, will be something she/he can work through with support of their parent.

A teen typically isn't either consistent or calm, which is why the teen requires these traits from a parent.  If you consider most of a teen's life is spent in a frenzy of hectic drama which appears to be threatening their social status at any moment.

 
This can create havoc in attempts at homework and regular family communication.

A teen, at any moment, can be drawn down a path of self-destruction but they can also be drawn to positive resources as well.  A balanced parent will recognize

the different paths the teen is putting forth and realize the the chosen path for the teen does not need to be the same walkway as the parent.

As your teen explodes and once again creates drama following a friend phone call, it is your responsibility to be as much of an adult as possible.  This will most

likely require you to keep a consistent tone in your voice, a balanced opinion in regards to their situation, and the ability to not strangle your child for slamming

his, or her, bedroom door for the 10th time this week.